I am so excited to share this awesome guest post with you today from my good friend Cheri! Cheri is a mom blogger over at Absolutely Cheri, and she has a passion for helping mama’s like you find happiness in the everyday.
In this post, Cheri walks you through her own personal tricks for fostering a happy, positive attitude through even the hardest struggles of motherhood. Her methods are quick and easy to apply, and are sure to give your frustrations and overwhelm a rapid one-two punch.
I know you will love Cheri just as much as I do and can’t wait to hear how her tips impact your day-to-day. Don’t forget to snag your free workbook at the end of the post!
It’s easy to feel the new year hype. The pull everyone has to improve themselves is overwhelming. Whether it’s fitness goals, financial goals, parenting goals, or anything else, most people view the new year as a fresh start and want to make a positive change.
What if I told you a way that you could really make a difference this year? You could improve your overall life quickly and easily. What I’m going to share with you will impact every aspect of your day in the most positive way. You can do this by making a shift in your mindset. By shifting your mindset you can drastically, and sometimes rather quickly, change your entire life.
Your mindset is the way you view the world. It determines how you handle every external force that comes your way. Imagine waking up every day, smiling and rested. You are ready, happy, and excited to face the day and whatever it brings.
Let’s get started.
Develop a Gracious Mindset
The fastest and most effective way to change your mindset is by expressing gratitude. I keep a gratitude journal in which I write down 5 things I am grateful for. I do this every single morning. Sometimes if I sleep in I’m not able to do it before the kids wake up, but I do it as soon as they are settled with breakfast. If I have extra time I flip through the past days and reflect on what I wrote.
Throughout the day I also try to recognize things I am grateful for. If it is a person, I tell them immediately. When I come across something challenging in my day, I try to fill my thoughts with gratitude while I address it. If I can’t think of any way to be grateful for the obstacle specifically, I will think of my husband or my kids, or even how I will feel when the challenge is past, visualizing gratitude for the positive outcome that I seek.
By expressing gratitude regularly and intentionally, we are filling ourselves with positive thoughts. When we are grateful for what we have, the things we want or need come to us more easily. Expressing gratitude for our loved ones strengthens those relationships. Keep gratitude on your mind and the bad thoughts that used to creep in won’t have a chance.
Become a Mindful Mama through Meditation
Meditation is the practice of quieting your body and your mind. Letting go of every thought and feeling and focusing on your breath.
I usually meditate before bed because it helps me sleep, but I have recently added it to my morning routine. Guided meditations are my favorite, but I have also been trying to practice silent meditation. Guided meditations will help you work through almost any thing you struggle with. I use the Calm App and YouTube to find guided meditations
I will admit that I was incredibly skeptical about meditation at first. It seemed so cheesy and pointless. I had better things to do. Then I read the book 10% Happier by Dan Harris, and it convinced me to give meditation a try. I encourage any meditation skeptic to read this book. It will change your mind, too.
Meditation is hard at first. It was tedious to sit and try not to think when I had so many things waiting on my to do list. But meditation is a practice. The more you do it, the easier it will be and the more you will benefit from it.
Use Affirmations to Foster a Positivity
Reciting affirmations is a powerful way to rewire your brain. Similar to expressing gratitude, reciting affirmations either verbally or mentally helps fill you up with positivity and good feelings.
When you feel better, you do better. Reciting affirmations such as “I am a good mom” or “I am a loving wife” will help you feel more confident in these roles every day. Believing in yourself is key. By telling yourself these affirmations, they will come true.
Each month I pick 2-3 affirmations to focus on. Sometimes I come across others as the month goes on; sometimes I keep the same affirmation for several months. To remind myself of my affirmations, I write them in my planner each week and leave notes around my house so I will see my affirmations frequently.
Just like with gratitude, I turn to my affirmations when faced with a challenge. Affirmations keep the negative thoughts away and help surround you with positivity. I know affirmations can feel cheesy, but they are so powerful. Give them a chance!
As mothers, our minds are so vulnerable. We go through so much to create, birth, and care for our tiny humans. There are, of course, many situations where seeing a medical professional is necessary. However, I have a strong belief in these habits and their ability to change your life. Give them a try and find out for yourself!
BONUS: One more way to make a big difference in your mindset is to make sure you are taking care of yourself. Yes, I’m talking about Self Care. Click here to check out my FREE Self Care Simplified Workbook to get you started!
I’m Cheri! I am a stay at home mom to two little boys and convinced my husband to marry me almost seven years ago. I am a passionate wife and mother, but I also love taking time for myself just to be Cheri. As the years have passed on this journey, I’ve developed a passion for helping other mothers find true happiness in their own journey. Join me at Absolutely Cheri!